i heart tuesdayi would like to personally advocate for the downplay, if not outright demolition, of valentines day, under the reason that it is incredibly forced and socially awkward. instead, i would like to encourage the idea of
"some random tuesday"... meaning if you're going to go to lengths to plan something romantic and adoring, why not do it when no else is, on a random day when you're not competing for dinner reservations or taking out second mortgages for some flowers. sharing time together outside of the wash of red and pink hearts adds a layer of special-ness, rather than a layer of expectation.
maybe i just reject the notion of forced showcasing of care, much like i shrink from gift-giving at christmas-time. i suppose there are deeper issues at work here that i would rather not take a closer look at, but i think there's something to be said for taking the pressure off when it comes to february 14th.
this year i seem to be hyper-aware of the concept, for reasons most know about and a few have witnessed. and i have to admit that i am a little surprised by the effect it has had on me, not necessarily good, though i know there are quite a few other factors in play. i realize i'm being somewhat cryptic; i usually wear my world on my face and my heart on my sleeve, but it's cold out, so my hearts got a bit of a coat on it for the moment. hopefully it will shed it soon!
current mood: healing and loving