yeah, that must be it
during an intense and thought-provoking discussion about my relationship status (single) by my 2 favorite "aunties" (val and fiona), with a descriptive and hopeful wish from val for me (extremely hot, extremely intelligent brown-belt who frequently has business in japan where i'd accompany him), fiona came to an interesting conclusion:
"i know! maybe you're just waiting for the right woman to come along!"
we then laughed heartily.